What Is Premature Ejaculation?
Premature ejaculation is ejaculation that happens too soon for a man
and his partner to enjoy sex. There are two types of premature
ejaculation: lifelong (or primary) and acquired (or secondary).
Lifelong PE starts early on, usually when you are a
teenager experiencing first sexual contact. It is harder to treat and
often has deeper psychological causes. Bad habits may also contribute
(such as masturbating to ejaculate as fast as possible in order to avoid
Acquired PE happens later in life and is usually
triggered by either psychological (stress or relationship issues) or
physical causes (diabetes or high blood pressure).
How Can I Delay Ejaculation?
There are a wide range of "home-made" remedies for premature
ejaculation like frequent sex, masturbating a couple of hours before
sex, or having sex with the woman on top.
Thicker condoms: a thicker wall can decrease the sensitivity of the penis
Behavioural strategies: "start-stop" and "squeeze techniques" often prove effective, but do not provide a long-term solution.
It can take a few months for you to overcome PE with these techniques and many men have to keep using them on a permanent basis.
On average, 50% to 95% of men using sexual techniques manage to
overcome PE eventually. There is a risk of relapse if there are
significant changes in your sexual life (e.g. new partner, stressful
event), especially if you feel anxious. In general, the sooner in life
you learn to master these techniques the better.
Men who are over-sensitive, rather than being excessively anxious,
might not benefit from these behavioural methods because they suffer
from a different cause of premature ejaculation.
For these patients, medications that reduce your sensitivity are a
better solution and eventually improve control over ejaculation. Whilst
they can be taken as long-term solutions for premature ejaculation, they
don't fix the underlying causes of PE.
What Is The "Start-Stop" Technique?
This is by far the most simple technique and can be done alone or with a partner.
The technique involves stimulating the penis and stopping just before
you feel you are about to ejaculate. Stop the stimulation for 30-60
seconds and start again once you feel that you have regained control.
Repeat this process 4-5 times, stopping and “resting” every time you
feel that you are about to have an orgasm. Finally, let the ejaculation
occur, so that you can identify the “point of no-return”.
Many couples and partners complain, however, about the inconvenience
of this “game” and find it frustrating. Try to incorporate it smoothly
into sex and take advantage of the pauses to focus on sources of
pleasure other than the penis.
What Is The "Squeeze" Technique?
The "squeeze" technique works by squeezing the penis in the area
between the shaft and the glans (for about 30 seconds), just before you
are about to ejaculate. This stops the ejaculation, but may affect your
erection, at least until you are stimulated again. You should then
repeat this process 4-5 times until you decide not to delay orgasm
To be effective, this method has to be used for several months and it requires great perseverance from the man and his partner.
The idea behind the "squeeze" technique is that, after a while, you
are able to recognize the “point of no return” and may be able to delay
future ejaculations. This technique may be frustrating though as it can
disrupt sexual activity.
What Are The Other Options?
The "start-stop" and "squeeze" technique prove more effective when combined with these techniques:
- Think about something else: something distracting, boring or annoying
- Take a deep breath before ejaculation: this can delay orgasm by slowing ejaculation and stimulation
Taking Care Of Your Partner
Longer foreplay can help increase satisfaction of your partner as
well as delay your ejaculation. Longer foreplay can improve your
relationship by reducing dissatisfaction, frustration and
Be aware that the more pressure men feel during sex, the more likely they are to suffer from PE.
Communication will help you overcome many issues and any discrepancies between your desires and those of your partner.
What Are The Best Tips?
Thick condoms: try these if you think your penis is too sensitive. They can help decrease its sensitivity.
Focus on other sexual pleasures: this can decrease anxiety and help you gain better control over your ejaculation.
Talk to your doctor: PE is a very treatable condition.
Full Transcript Of Video
Hello, my name is Dr. Wetzler of DrEd.com. Today, I want to talk
about how to stop premature ejaculation and the different solutions
available to men who come too early.
What is premature ejaculation? It is a common condition in which
you or your partner feels that you're reaching orgasm too quickly. We
usually mean that it's too fast for you to enjoy sex in general.
Somewhere below two minutes is often recognized as premature
While there's no cure to premature ejaculation, there are
treatments and exercises you can use to stop premature ejaculation. Keep
in mind that for most men what really works is, in fact, a combination
of all these techniques along with psychological counselling, if it is
necessary. Quite often, it is about solving a mix of anxiety, stress,
but also bad habits of ejaculating too early.
As to treatments, there are two very effective solutions. One is
the EMLA Cream that numbs the sensation of your penis so you don't get
too much stimulation and therefore you can last much longer. The other
is known as Priligy or Dapoxetine, which is a very effective oral tablet
that you take before sex. On average Priligy has been shown to help men
last, at least, three times longer than usual. Complete a simple online
questionnaire to get a prescription and order either EMLA Cream or