Do you want your partner or spouse to open up and talk about sex,
their interests and the things they want to try in bed? Well, here’s the
Are you having a hard time talking about sex with your partner?
Sometimes, talking about sex is always an awkward moment, especially if you’re in a new relationship.
And at other times, you could be in a seasoned relationship and still
feel uncomfortable discussing sex because you’re afraid you may be
If you want to take an initiate to talk about sex, but your partner
seems too embarrassed to discuss their ideas and thoughts with you, fret
14 tips to get your partner to open up and talk about sex
You can turn even the most prudish of lovers with locked up secrets
into a serial confessor using these 14 tips on how you can get your
lover to start talking about sex.
Start slow, and take a few baby steps using these tips.
And before you know it, you’ll feel closer to your partner.
And your sex life will feel more awesome and fresh with every passing day!
#1 Past experiences. Don’t confess about your past
experiences, especially if your partner doesn’t know just how sexually
liberated and active you’ve been before you met your lover.
Surprisingly, most partners prefer to stay in the dark instead of
hearing their partner’s confession about their kinky past. [Read: 6 things to keep in mind when you talk about your past relationships]
If you’re sure your partner would be able to handle your past, slip a
few details now and then and watch how they react to it over a couple
But if you want your partner to open up about sex talk, let your
lover know that you’ve had partners before, and that you’re open to
trying new things if it could make both your sex lives more interesting
and fascinating! [Real Life Caution: A bedtime confession gone horribly wrong!]
#2 Avoid the serious talk. ‘We need to talk about sex’ is the
last thing you should say if you want to broach the topic of sex and
sexual fantasies. Well, that’s unless one of you say something that
offends the other.
The best time to talk about sex is when both of you are in bed. The
second best time to talk about it is when both of you are just fooling
around or relaxing around the house. The third best time to talk about
it is when the opportune moment crops up, either because of something a
friend said or something you saw on the telly or in a magazine *or in
Lovepanky!* [Read: 30 fun and sexy questions to keep the naughty spark alive in your relationship]
#3 Speak in third person. If you’re feeling terribly awkward
about the impending sexual conversation, talk about a *friend of yours*
who likes a particular fantasy or has indulged in a particular sexual
It’s easier to talk in third person, and if your partner likes the
idea, you can always smile sheepishly and confess that you were talking
about yourself! [Read: Top 10 sexual fantasies for men and Top 10 sexual fantasies for women]
#4 Naughty questions. Want to explore sexual ideas and
fantasies without feeling awkward about it? There’s no better way to do
that than by using our list of dirty questions. Try them, and you’ll see
just how much both of you can learn about each other’s sexual interests
in under an hour! [Read: 30 incredibly horny and dirty would-you-rather questions to ask your lover]
#5 Don’t push it. Don’t go overboard while trying to please
your partner, or to prove that you love their idea even if you don’t.
Just because your partner enjoys something doesn’t mean they expect you
to enjoy the same things. Sometimes, it takes a compromise between
sexual interests. And at other times, it has to be a complete no-no.
Talk to your partner about your sexual interests, or hear theirs out.
Take some time for the ideas to sink in, and if it’s something you just
can’t do, be frank and tell your lover about it *without making them
#6 Delay penetration. What do you do when you get into bed to
make love? Do you rush into the act because you find your lover
irresistible? Well, stop and take it slow the next few times you’re in
bed with them.
Taking it slow in bed, and talking about things either of you enjoy
can be a revelation that can make your sex life a lot more interesting.
Take time to explore each other, talk about things both of you enjoy and
try new things that feel good in bed. [Read: 9 sexy things you can do to delay penetration and drive each other crazy!]
#7 Start the conversation with a confession. But don’t go
overboard just yet. If you’ve been trying to ask your partner what they
enjoy, and your partner just blushes coyly or pretends like they’re
interested in nothing but the missionary, don’t push them on.
Instead, make a small and calculated confession. Brush the surface of
something you enjoy and tell your partner about it. And see how your
boyfriend or girlfriend reacts to your little confession. Taking it slow
can help your partner test their own boundaries without assuming you’re
a sexual deviant! [Read: 10 naughty games for couples to explore their sexual secrets]
#8 Talk dirty in bed. Dirty talk kicks butt, especially when
both of you are completely comfortable to explore each other’s sexual
minds without feeling inhibited by it. [Read: How to talk dirty to a guy and make him horny!]
If you want your partner to open up to you and talk about the things
they enjoy sexually, just start talking about something naughty or dirty
while having sex with each other. One thing would lead to another, and
before you know it, you’ll unleash a wildcat. And oh yes, the sex will
blow your mind too! [Read: The right way to talk dirty to a girl without turning her off]
#9 Don’t clam up. Don’t judge your partner. Just because your
partner says they’ve fantasized about having a threesome or that they
like the idea of public flashing doesn’t make them a bad person. All of
us have our own sexual fantasies, and as tame as yours may seem to you,
there’s a big chance you’ll shock many with your own imagination!
If your partner trusts you enough to share their deepest, darkest
fantasies with you, the least you can do is let your partner know you
accept them for who they are. On the other hand, if you clam up and
appear shocked or annoyed, your partner may feel ashamed and never ever
open up to you again! [Read: 20 things every couple needs to know before considering a threesome]
#10 That annoying feeling. If something your partner says
bothers you or pricks you hard, sit down with your partner. Calmly and
cautiously, tell them how you feel, all the while reassuring them that
you’re not judging them but just trying to understand their sexual side
On the other hand, if your partner’s sex talk or sexual fantasies
arouse or interest you, ask your partner to elaborate so you can add
your own dark experiences and interests into the conversation. [Read: How to react to a sexual confession without losing your mind]
#11 Sex suggestions aren’t criticisms. Understand this well,
and remember it. If your partner tells you something in bed that offends
you, even for a moment, you need to realize that your partner is
revealing it to you only to m